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TOM HANKS has opened up about his childhood, blaming his dysfunctional up bringing for his inability to form lasting bonds in adult life.The Philadelphia star’s parents divorced when he was just five years ol d and he spent the rest of his early years moving from town to town with his siblings and dad Amos, who made a habit of uprooting the family to ne w locations.and Hanks believes the lack of stability in his youth has affected his ability to trust others.He tells Britain’s Daily Mirror, "When I was growing up, we moved aroun d an awful lot so we didn’t have a lot of friends around us that we reall y knew well. We were always taking off. our father was a cook who moved o ften, uprooting us. We saw our mother on holidays. Altogether, I had thre e mothers, four fathers, five schools and 10 houses."my childhood wasn’t a bed of roses, but it made me independent… Sinc e I moved around so much as a kid, I didn’t have an awful lot of friends.I don’t think it’s part of my make-up to completely open up. I can prete nd to be very good friends with people then not have anything to do with them for 18 months."
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From a tragedy Death – and birth – resulted from crash
Emily Thompson gets giggle attention from her mom and grandfather, Beverly and John Fincher
“It’s amazing!”If Christopher Cody Thompson were alive today, that’s probably what he’d say about the world of good and all of the life that came out of all of the bad that happened nearly one year ago.But he’s not alive.on Saturday, July 18, 2009, the car Cody was riding in was rear-ended on Ala. 69 in front of Don’s Convenience Store. his fianc/e, Beverly Fincher, was riding in the front passenger seat of the 2006 Kia Spectra, which was driven by her dad, John Fincher.Cody, 20, was in the back seat when an eastbound 1991 Isuzu Rodeo driven by a 16-year-old Arab boy plowed into the rear of the Kia at 45-55 mph, crunching it up like an accordion.The impact led to Beverly, eight and a half months pregnant with her and Cody’s daughter, giving birth by c-section that evening to Emily Nichole Thompson.
Emily’s dad died two days later.Her first birthday will be Sunday – a joyous spot in the impending anniversary of Cody’s death.”I could give you a whole other story of dark hard feelings,” says John, 40, of Fairview. “I have resentment I have not gotten over yet, but there is no use dwelling on that. That would not accomplish anything.”This is the best part right here,” he grins at his granddaughter. “I get by the bad part when I look at that.”
And there is so much good, too, insist Beverly and her mother, Sharon.When the accident happened, Beverly, a 2009 graduate of Fairview High School, and Cody had been dating about two years.”They were good for each other,” says Sharon, a nurse at Golden Living Center in Arab.They had set an advanced wedding date of June 20, 2010. It would be the third anniversary of their relationship, and they planned to marry in Beverly’s grandmother’s yard, where her parents had married.Cody, son of Charlene Thompson of Fairview, worked at Black’s Furniture City. Beverly, now 19 and an assistant manager at Kentucky Fried Chicken in Arab, was a cashier at the time.’Are you OK?’The day of the wreck started out on a positive note. The couple and John were headed to Marshall Medical Center where Sharon was being released after a bout with pneumonia.on the way, they decided to turn into to Don’s Convenience Store for a Coke.”We never even saw it coming,” Beverly says of the wreck.The impact set off her air bags, but none of the others.John thinks he and his daughter were knocked out momentarily.”It came into reality,” Beverly says, “when Dad asked me, ‘Are you OK?’”The rear of the car was completely smashed in. Cody’s head was up by John’s shoulder. John checked his airway. Cody was unconscious but at least breathing.”I assumed the best – ‘He’s knocked out,’” John says.People at the store called the police, but Beverly did not know that.”I called my mom before I call the cops,” she says. “I told her someone had hit us. I said, ‘Daddy is talking. Cody is not talking. what should I do?’”John, who had a broken collarbone, says he spoke to Sharon but has no recollection of it.”I did tell the paramedics not to worry about me but to get him and her,” he says. “I knew Beverly in her pregnant state needed immediate attention, and Cody needed immediate attention.”‘I was frantic’While Beverly did not seem to be badly injured, her water had broken. John kept asking if she could feel the baby move.”I couldn’t,” she recalls.”That was scary,” John says.as Arab fire and Rescue paramedics worked to free and stabilize everyone, Beverly’s fear for Cody escalated.”I was frantic, and I wasn’t nice about it,” she says. “I wanted to know what was happening with Cody. I was not accepting ‘Calm down.’ I just wanted paramedics to tell me. Of course they did not want to tell me how bad he was.”AFR personnel whisked her and Cody, together in an ambulance, to the Arab soccer fields to where helicopters were en route.John, lying on a stretcher, recalls seeing the AirEvac helicopter from Cullman pass overhead and wondering if Beverly and Cody would ride together.a MedFlight helicopter from Huntsville however, picked up Cody. a few minutes later AirEvac got Beverly. Both went to Huntsville Hospital.John – along with the driver of the car that hit them – rode by ambulance to MMCN.a member of the Baileyton Volunteer fire Department for several years, John had worked bad wrecks before.”It was weird being on the other end of it,” he says. “But you gotta’ say those guys from Arab fire and Rescue did a great job. They knew what they were doing.”His praise continues for ER personnel at Marshall Medical. Simply great, John says.Joy tempers tragedySharon, up until that point a patient waiting for discharge, located John in the ER. She stayed with him until shortly after Alan Walker, his boss at Walker Brothers in Baileyton, arrived to check on John.as more people arrived to stay with John – BVFD Chief Joe Golden, Tim Walker and others – Sharon hijacked Alan Walker, who took her to Huntsville.It was Tim Walker who, relaying a message from Alan later that night, told John that Emily had been born.”When he told me I had a granddaughter, I didn’t give the ER staff much option,” John grins. “I said I would take out my IV or they could. I was going to Huntsville.”That Emily survived is the best thing to come of the tragedy, Sharon says. and it was a close call.The crash impact caused Emily a 20-percent detachment from the placenta. Doctors had given her just a 10-percent chance of survival.Her live birth to some degree helped temper Cody’s unfolding tragedy. After his surgery, doctors told Sharon he had suffered massive, internal brain damage. They were keeping him alive on a ventilator.She felt she had to tell Beverly, recovering in surgical ICU, but the doctors advised against it for the time being.”I had to lie to her for 24 hours,” Sharon says.Assume the positiveAt Beverly’s request, nurses carried Emily to Cody’s room and laid her in her father’s arms.”They did anything humanly possible to fulfill any request Beverly had,” John says of the Huntsville hospital staff. “They went way beyond what you might expect.”Though Cody was unconscious, Beverly likes to think he knew Emily was in his arms.”I would like to think he also knew it when we stood above his bed four or five times a day and talked to him,” she says.”I have to believe in my heart he heard us,” John says. “There is no way of knowing, so assume the positive.”That Monday, July 20, Cody was taken off life support and died.But in a wonderful way, the Finchers say, he lives on.Cody was an organ donor and had been kept alive to line up numerous transplants, presumably across the country. his heart, lungs, liver, kidneys and corneas went to people facing death or blindness.But there was not much time to ponder that yet. Beverly was released from the hospital July 22 and had to immediately plan a funeral. Emily got out the next day, the same day her father was buried.”It was easier staying busy,” Beverly says. and Emily immediately became a full-time bundle. “It helped to not sit and dwell.”But there was one thing she could not help but dwell on.”Her eyes were identical to her daddy’s,” Beverly says. “I thought that was a blessing. I have never seen a baby look so much like her daddy.”A luau for EmilyWhen does tragedy become bearable?”When I see Emily smile,” Sharon says.and it also makes it so much more bearable to remember all the folks who came to their aid.”You found out who your real friends are,” Beverly says.Co-workers at KFC sent flowers, took up donations for hospital bills and shuffled schedules to help out.Hugh Black and Alan Walker set up account for Emily. Black, before he knew the full status, had said even if Cody came out paralyzed, not to worry, that he would have a job answering the phone or doing something at Black’s for as long as he lived.People at Don’s store gave flowers and money. Youth and other members at Pleasant View Baptist Church in Holly Pond were there for them all. in fact, before the accident, they gave a baby shower for the couple.”Cody said it was amazing,” Sharon recalls. “He also said he was going to be the best dad ever.”"There is so much positive that came out of it,” John says. “With something like this, you see how people really are. So much bad happens that it’s wonderful to know there are still good people in this world that have a heart for others.”You can’t thank all those people enough. ‘It’s amazing,’ that was Cody’s phrase.”From 2 p.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday, the Finchers are having a luau-themed first birthday for Emily at Baileyton Town Park.Any and everyone is invited, and they hope to see many friends and family, such as Cody’s uncle, Ronnie Thompson.”We want to make it all about Emily. It’s her day,” Sharon says.”We need something to get our minds off Cody’s death,” says John.”Don’t want it to be a sad day for her,” Beverly adds, “especially in future.”A most selfless personBeyond the gift of their birthday girl, the family says Cody’s gift of his organs is the greatest good to come out of that tragic day a year ago.”Cody touched eight lives by being organ donor,” Sharon says. “There are other people alive because he donated his organs.”They don’t know a last name but have a long letter from the mother of a 13-year-old boy coping with Alport Syndrome, who received one of Cody’s kidneys. It’s keeping him alive.”Just know your precious son was not only so loved by those who know him best, but by some who hadn’t even had the pleasure of meeting him,” reads the letter addressed to “dearest donor family.” “Our thoughts, prayers and eternal gratitude are with you always.”"He was one of the most selfless people I have ever seen,” Beverly says of Cody. “He lectured me about becoming a donor. I didn’t like the idea, but he said, ‘What if it was our little girl, and she could be saved, but someone was too selfish to be a donor?’”Beverly is now a donor.So is her 16-year-old sister, Kelley. Speaking of positives, riding in the backseat when she was pregnant made Beverly sick, so Kelley would have been in the backseat with Cody that day, except she had gone to visit an uncle in Tennessee.to know her dadBeverly holds a hope for one day.”I think it would nice for Emily to meet some of Cody’s organ recipients and know that her dad saved their lives,” she says.Cody’s family and the recipient would both have to agree, but what if that did occur? Take it step farther. what if Emily got to meet that person on her birthday?John says the answer is same thing Cody would say about all the good that managed to come out of all the bad that happened a year ago.”He would just step back,” John says, “and say, ‘It’s amazing.’”
The Royal Academy’s Sargent and the Sea exhibition has to be one of the nerdiest shows I’ve attended for years. I don’t mean this to be a critical remark – or at least not entirely. There’s a place for nerdiness in our understanding of visual art and, from time to time, it’s surely right that the Royal Academy is that place. If mildly-obsessional scholarship is to be exercised anywhere then it should be here – or at the Courtauld or the National Gallery say. They know, for one thing, that they have a loyal audience who will be interested in the footnotes of a great artistic career. Even taking that into account though, Sargent and the Sea might be regarded as a special-interest affair – focusing as it does on just a few years of an artist’s apprenticeship and then further narrowing down the focus to paintings and drawings of the sea. It’s not even as if Sargent is famous as a marine artist, either – in which case this close scrutiny could be regarded as a tributary to the mainstream. It’s just a phase he went through. I suppose they felt it would be alright because they had “sea” in the title – and that felt appropriately summery.
To be honest Sargent and the Beach would have been more accurate as a title – or Sargent and the Dockside. Because, although the rubric for the exhibition does suggest here and there that it’s nature that Sargent is interested in, the truth is that you more often find him directing his attention at the sea’s peripherals rather than the thing itself. there are numerous sketches of fishing smacks and lighters, of the details of rigging and pulley blocks. there are lovely, fluid line drawings of sailors hauling on their oars or pulling at ropes and fisherwomen walking down to the shoreline to collect oysters. there are sun-blasted canvasses of Capri beaches and the kind of study of pre-pubescent Italian boys which would, these days, earn Sargent a visit from the Vice Squad or a spluttering editorial in the Daily Mail. but, given the title, there’s a striking lack of seawater.
It’s there, of course – transparent and turquoise in a painting of an Italian beach and pooled in reflective puddles in the large painting "En Route Pour la Pêche", which helped establish Sargent’s reputation in the Paris Salon (and whose painstaking creation is fascinatingly detailed here). but there are fewer pictures than you might expect in which the sea is the whole point of the thing, rather than a helpful occasion for people to take their clothes off or the location for some nicely fiddly bits of nautical gear. and – though this might be just prejudice on my part – it seems to be quite dry sea too, less a liquid element or something that threatens immersion, than an intriguing plane of colour which does interesting things to the light.
There is one huge, rescuing, exception though – a painting in which the sea doesn’t lap gently at a Mediterranean beach or slop in a placidly disciplined way between the stone walls of a quay, but is primally overwhelming. It’s called "Atlantic Storm", and it records a mid-ocean tempest Sargent experienced returning to Europe from America on the SS Algeria.
In this picture there’s almost nothing but sea – a huge rising swell down which the liner from which the ocean is seen has just slid. A wake of pale blue foam rises over the hill of the wave and disappears into the trough behind. In the distance, despite the irregularity of the waves nearby, the horizon line is flat – a geometry that tells you this unnerving turbulence extends as far as you can see… and slightly to the left of the image the spray whipping from the peak of the wave tells you how hard the wind is blowing. In the company of the other pictures – sedate, moored up, sun-struck – it is, rather literally, a gale of fresh air, heaving with energy and a threat which is somehow emphasised by the blue sky and sunshine. at any moment, you feel, you could slip down the sloping deck and be lost. Life is not a beach and this – most definitely – is not a nerd’s painting.
The star is terrible, but the show is great
You might think that great comic timing and acting ability were indispensable for a successful sit-com but Simon Amstell’s forthcoming comedy Grandma’s House suggests that isn’t necessarily so. A Curb your Enthusiasm-inspired series about a character called Simon, who has just given up hosting a successful television pop quiz to pursue other projects, Grandma’s House is mostly concerned with Simon’s interaction with the various members of his family – including his doting and pushy mother (played by Rebecca Front), his grandfather (the late Geoffrey Hutchings) and his mother’s ghastly boyfriend – a clich?-spouting hail-fellow type played by James Smith, who was the put-upon Glenn in the Thick of It. They are all excellent. Amstell, to put it very mildly, is not. In fact he’s startlingly inept – his features fixed in a embarrassed half-smile throughout, as if he can hardly bear to be in front of the camera. A speaking clock would probably give a more nuanced performance – something which is even more conspicuous given the subtlety of the acting all around him. It’s a bit like framing a three-year old’s daubed painting of Daddy in a priceless Renaissance gilt frame. and yet Grandma’s House is very good and very funny. It’s beautifully written and tartly excessive in just the right way. It even finds room for real feelings about family life, some of them involving the strange, wooden marionette at its centre. I don’t know whether to recommend it because it’s so good or he’s so terrible – but, either way, it’s something to see.
Spare me the blackboard jungle
I generally brace myself when I see a lecture hall in a movie, since it’s usually a sign that you’re a) about to have a large chunk of undisguised exposition or b) that you’ll soon be writhing in embarrassment at Hollywood’s notion of academic discourse. It isn’t always terrible, of course. I quite liked the scene in good Will Hunting where Matt Damon’s janitor completes a problem that has stumped the university’s top mathematicians, but only because it was so cheesy and everything happened after-hours. far more typical are scenes like those at the beginning of Lions for Lambs, where Robert Redford’s professor clunkily lays out the film’s dilemma in a way that even a first-year philosophy student would find unimpressive. I tensed even more when Michael Caine appeared in a lecture theatre in Christopher Nolan’s Inception, because if ever a film could legitimately claim the need for some clunky exposition, it is this one. and yet what could exposition do other than expose the underlying implausibility of the thing? full marks to Nolan, anyway, for resisting the powerful temptation to sketch out the mechanics of his fantasy on the blackboard, instead leaving us floundering as helplessly as we had been before. (Out of curiosity, can anyone name a movie lecture scene that isn’t intellectually risible?)
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Tom Sutcliffe: Water, water, everywhere at the Royal Academy’s Sargent and the Sea exhibition
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And then they couldn’t wait for it to end.
Josh Hamilton took over the major league batting lead with three doubles, helping the Rangers get off to a quick start in the second half with a six-run first inning on their way to a 7-2 victory over the Boston Red Sox on Thursday night.
“Before the break, I felt like we needed a break. some of the guys were tired,” Hamilton said. “Everybody got some rest and we came out stronger.”
Bengie Molina homered as Texas batted around in first inning against Tim Wakefield. Nelson Cruz and Vladimir Guerrero had three hits apiece for the Rangers, who lost their last four games heading into the break – against the lowly Baltimore Orioles – to open July with a 3-8 record.
“I think the break came at the right time,” said Rangers manager Ron Washington, whose team had gone 21-6 in June. “We were tired. when you play hard for as long as we did, it takes something out of you. We needed the days off, and it couldn’t have come at a better time.”
Tommy Hunter (6-0) held Boston to five hits before leaving with a 7-2 lead with two outs in the seventh. He walked two, struck out one and hit a batter while allowing solo homers to bill Hall and J.D. Drew.
Hamilton raised his batting average to .351 before being replaced by a pinch runner in the seventh inning because of soreness in his calf behind his right knee.
“It was just tight,” he said, adding that there was no need for an X-ray or MRI. “I could have stayed in and kept playing. I thought it might be a good time for a break.”
Boston has lost six of its last eight games. Tim Wakefield (3-8) had his shortest outing since September, 2008, allowing six earned runs on eight hits and striking out two before leaving three batters into the third inning.
“I’m as dumbfounded as anybody else,” Wakefield said. “I felt like I had some of the best stuff I had all year coming out of the bullpen, but I just didn’t have it tonight.”
The Red Sox had only five regular starters in the lineup because of injuries to Dustin Pedroia, Adrian Beltre, Victor Martinez and Jacoby Ellsbury. Felix Doubront has been called up from the minors to pitch on Friday because of injuries to Clay Buchholz and Josh Beckett.
The Rangers entered the game with a 4 1/2 game lead in the AL West despite being swept by Baltimore in the last four games before the All-Star break. that included Hunter’s worst start of the season, in which he took a 4-1 lead into the seventh but didn’t get an out in the inning; the Rangers blew the lead and lost 6-4, and Hunter got a no-decision.
“I left them in a bad situation in my last outing,” he said.
They didn’t wait long to turn things around.
After Wakefield struck out Elvis Andrus to lead off the game, he gave up six straight hits. Michael Young, Ian Kinsler and Guerrero all singled, Hamilton doubled and Cruz singled to make it 4-0. Molina hit a two-run homer before Wakefield got the bottom two in the order to end the inning.
After a 1-2-3 second inning, the Rangers put three straight batters on – one on an Hall’s error at third base – to make it 7-0 and chase Wakefield.
“They strung together a bunch of hits,” Red Sox manager Terry Francona said. “He came out in the third and it looked like it was going to be another tough inning so I had to go get him.”
Robert Manuel inherited runners at second and third and nobody out and pitched out of the jam to avoid further damage.
Notes: the Red Sox observed a moment of silence before the game for former Yankees owner George Steinbrenner and public address announcer Bob Sheppard. … the Rangers signed OF Josh Richmond, a 12th-round pick from the University of Louisville, and assigned him to Spokane of the Northwest League. … Wakefield is 2-6 with a 6.75 ERA in nine starts since May 28. … Hall made a diving catch on Molina in the fifth to deprive him of extra bases down the line. … Texas, which stole nine bases against Wakefield on April 20, stole one on Thursday to extend its streak to 35 in a row without being thrown out. Cruz was caught trying to advance to second on a pitch in the dirt that was not ruled a stolen base attempt.
FLOYD Mayweather Jr. only has until this Saturday (RP time) to accept the offer for a fight with pound-for-pound king Manny Pacquiao this year.
“We’re ready to go on with the Mayweather fight,” Arum said in a report posted on ESPN.com. “But we have to make contingency plans just in case and I don’t really want to talk about that too much.”
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After accusing Pacquiao of using steroids and of docking him, Mayweather Jr. changed tactics last month and said he was taking a year off boxing.
Arum, who said he wasn’t taking Mayweather’s words seriously, has given the boxer until July 16 to accept the deal.
“Mayweather has until the end of the week. he could wait until the last minute. If it’s Friday and it’s 11 p.m., and he says we have a deal, we have a deal.”
However, if Mayweather Jr. won’t accept the proposal, top Rank big boss Bob Arum has a back-up plan: to pit his top fighter against either Miguel Cotto or Mexican banger Antonio Margarito.
“That’s the fight (against Mayweather) we want and that’s the fight we’re in for, but if we can’t do that fight, there are other opponents,” said Arum.
Even if it won’t be against Mayweather Jr., Pacquiao’s next fight would still be a blockbuster since he could go for a record eighth division title against either Cotto or Margarito.
After losing to Pacquiao in the 147-pound division, Cotto came back successfully and beat Yuri Foreman to win the 154-pound belt.
Margarito, who also beat Cotto, beat in Roberto Garcia to win the WBC international 154-pound title. It was his first fight since getting banned for a year for using illegal hand wraps in a loss to Shane Mosely.
“Bob and I have spoken about both Cotto and Margarito and we will have a done deal and a signed contract for a fight by the end of this month,” Pacquiao’s adviser Michael Koncz said in the report.
Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on July 15, 2010.
